A 'We're Not Blowing Hot Air' Podcast

Teaser for EP. 2: The Similarity of Cults and Abusive Relationships Between Two People

March 19, 2024 Rick Alan Ross Season 4 Episode 2
A 'We're Not Blowing Hot Air' Podcast
Teaser for EP. 2: The Similarity of Cults and Abusive Relationships Between Two People
Show Notes Transcript

Have you ever considered the eerie parallels between cults and abusive relationships? Grasping these connections could be the first step in safeguarding yourself or someone you love. Our latest episode features a riveting conversation with a distinguished expert and author, who illuminates the manipulative tactics employed by both cult leaders and abusive partners. With their insights, we unravel the psychological threads that bind victims to their abusers, from the insidiousness of gaslighting to the forced isolation that strips away one's sense of self.

Dive deep into the mechanisms of control and the strategies for empowerment as our guest elaborates on concepts like Lifton's "thought reform" and the phenomenon of mystical manipulation. Whether it's the subtle undermining of personal relationships or the abrupt uprooting to unfamiliar environments, this episode exposes the consistent patterns used to dominate and control. This isn't just an informative discussion—it's an essential guide for recognizing and resisting the signs of coercive control, in intimate partnerships and beyond. Tune in and equip yourself with the knowledge to break the cycle of manipulation.

Cult expert, author and educator, Rick Alan Ross, explains how the dynamic of a destructive cult parallels an abusive relationship - "Think of it as a cult with one leader and one follower."  Learn how destructive cults work and red flags in any unhealthy relationship, in the full episode: "What's the Meaning of Life?"

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Speaker 1:

As you've mentioned, it's a lot like what happens in an abusive relationship. Yes, I mean, if you know someone that's in an abusive controlling relationship and I have a chapter about this in my book they are very typically very deeply narcissistic people, abusive controlling partners, they lack empathy, they lack sympathy, very much like a cult leader. And in the same way that a cult breaks people down, changes them and then isolates them and reinforces that change, an abusive controlling partner can do the same thing. It's been called gaslighting, what Lifton calls in the book Thought Reform, the Psychology of Totalism, mystical Manipulation or Plan Spontaneity, which is the controlling partner.

Speaker 1:

The abusive partner is systematically chipping away at the person's self-esteem, making calculated comments to make them feel that they're a loser, that they're not really that intelligent, that they're stupid, and so the abusive controlling partner is breaking them down so that they can then change them. And so frequently an abusive controlling partner will say things like well, why do you hang out with those old girlfriends? Or I don't like that guy, I think he's after you, or can't we spend more time together? Or let's move and move to another city. And that is socially isolating the person who's being abused, so they're being cut off from old friends and family in a new environment controlled by the abusive controlling partner. So if you know someone that's in an abusive controlling relationship, you can draw parallels between that relationship which is, if you will, a cult with one leader and one follower and extrapolate that to a cult with one leader and many followers. But the techniques, the manipulation for control is the same.

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